This title is taken from Raymond Carver's story "What We Talk About When We Talk About Love". In that story Carver describes two couples, sitting and talking about love. One lady tells the other people how her former husband tried to kill her and then she claims that he loved her in his own way. This reminds me of Fletcher, the harsh teacher in the film Whiplash. Did he love his students as well? In my many years as a teacher I have seen different ways to instill motivation.